Healing The Loss

No matter what our medical model or general culture believes, grief is healthy.

-- Franz Schubert --

There is no grief like the grief that does not speak.

-- Henry Wadsworth Longfellow --

The work of the artist is to express what is repressed or even to speak the unspoken grief of society.

-- Franz Schubert --

You didn't need to learn something that only disaster could teach.

-- Megan Devine --

The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to.

-- Elizabeth Kubler-Ross --

Encouragement to look towards the future only ignores the pain you are in right now.

-- Megan Devine--

Grief is not an obstacle. Never let anyone convince you there's something wrong with your grief.

-- Tim Lawrence --

Grief is a sane response to the physical loss of someone, or something you love.

-- Megan Devine --

Perhaps one day we'll be more shocked when a heartbroken soul isn't expressing their grief than when they are.

-- Tim Lawrence --

“Grieving people want and need to be heard, not fixed”

-- Grief Recovery Method --

“When people say that time heals all wounds, they forget that all wounds are meant to be healed. Some wounds are merely held, caressed, acknowledged and wept for. There is nothing wrong with this”

-- Tim Lawrence--

“You want me to get over my loss? Actually it would make more sense for you to get over your need for me to get over my loss”

-- Tim Lawrence --

“We must grieve our unmet hopes, dreams and expectations"

-- Grief Recovery Method --

“We want them to stand beside us, not trying to fix what cannot be fixed, not trying to rush us out of our grief. We want them to stand there, without flinching, and acknowledge what is true: this hurts. This hurts. I’m here”

-- Megan Devine --

“Always defend your right to heal at your own pace. You are taking your time. You are allowed to take your time”

-- Rebecca Baldwin --

Healing the Loss

Navigating your way through...

Writings

Writing has long been one of the ways I process grief, loss, and the many layers of the human experience. Through reflection and storytelling, I explore the realities of living with loss, resilience, identity, and the quieter moments that shape our lives.


Over the past decade, I have written about grief and loss for community organizations and local publications. My writing has also appeared in the online magazine of The Compassionate Friends, where I have shared reflections on bereavement and living with the loss of a child.


Many of these pieces grow out of the same work that informs my grief support practice and educational workshops. Writing allows space for deeper reflection and helps give language to experiences that are often difficult to name.


Life at 65% is my Substack where I write about grief, navigating life after loss, resilience, and the everyday realities of living with change. These reflections explore grief not only after death, but also the many forms of loss that shape our lives.


Read the blog here: https://hilaryscott.substack.com